Closure

Closure is really a funny thing. People often seek it when in fact their searching for other things....Some seek a sense that their ex still thinks about them, or maybe that they still want the other as much as they still want them. Regardless of the reasons....people who seek it rarely (if ever) are honest with themselves about why their seeking this thing their calling closure.

Having learned this lesson in the past, when my very serious relationship ended abruptly some time ago. As devastated as I was after it occurred....I was very careful not to go seeking closure until (1) I was ready for he truth and more importantly (2) I knew in my head really what I wanted, and why I was seeking closure. Having done so I received my closure...and while still a serious blow to my ego, person in general and life. I realize now that I'm honestly better off and more importantly that I'll not only survive but will likely be better because of this life shake up.
While it's important to understand, remember and recognize the good people bring into our lives we must be equally realize and remember the bad they brought as well. This might be a little more pessimistic than most people know me to be......but bear with me because its true. I'm still very much so a person that tries to see the good in people despite the bad. But the older I get the more I realize that everyone does not deserve a place in your life (some in any capacity), especially those that bring too much bad, baggage or other "crap" along with them. It's honestly a sad thing to say....but true none the less.
So seek the closure you seem to want just be sure that you know what you seek and why. It's likely you already know everything you need to know.
An analogy I love to say is....some plants just need to die, especially if nobody is going to care for it consistently. Just let the plant die already.
Move on, live life. Chow